Given the information on my site, you have probably figured out what my “F” word is! (feminine!) I recently read an article about Nancy Pelosi , who was de-valuing and deriding her replacement, John Boehner, because he had become emotional, and actually shed some tears at various times in his political career. I can’t remember the quote exactly, but basically she was indicating how “unprofessional” that behavior was. I have to say I was very disappointed those words were coming from a woman, although I was not surprised. Many women, particularly those in competitive positions with men, have really bought into their “inner patriarchy”, and follow the idea that somehow emotions, and their expression, are inappropriate and actually “weak”….obviously we don’t want someone bawling their eyes out in a public forum, but why are we so afraid of those feminine principles (that we find in both men and women), of connection, deep emotional openness, and receptivity?
Whether we recognize it or not, we are basically emotional beings-
When we show tears it means we are deeply moved by something, whether it be joy, sadness, passion, or pain. It shows that we are in touch with something soulfully held, and profoundly felt. More importantly, when we express those feelings outwardly, in a managed way, we become more transparent, and transparency allows for connection, relationship building, and collaboration- characteristics much-needed in our world today. Bringing The Feminine Principle to the “professional” arena, particularly in the area of politics, would move our country and world to a much more balanced and positive place.
So I say ”more power to ya” Mr. Boehner, Maybe Nancy Pelosi can take some lessons from you!